How often have you had someone say that they were not criticising they were giving feedback? Sometimes people say it is feedback, so they will not upset others when it is really criticism. The criticism I receive is often from people close to me and if I query it I am told I am too defensive.

Is there a difference in criticism from a work colleague or a friend or relative? It feels more personal from a relative and often more upsetting.

Criticism has a negative meaning. It often highlights mistakes or weaknesses but often does not have the beneficial part that appears in feedback. Criticism can be more about communicating dissatisfaction than showing progress.

The main aim of feedback is to give support to enable someone to get better. It examines both positive parts and ideas for improvement. Feedback is supportive, enabling people to progress .

Feedback often examines both positive and negative behaviour or behaviour aspects. It aims to maintain a balance, stressing strengths while  pointing out areas that need improvement.

I was hoping Moodscopers would share their ideas when receiving criticism and when giving feedback. What are helpful phrases to use? How do you set boundaries with a critical family member?

I have been told I overreact to criticism when the person claims they are being helpful. Can anyone relate to that? I have been told that negative comments reveal more about the person saying them than the person hearing them. Do you agree?

Leah 

A Moodscope member